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The Wedding

February 12th, 2020 at 04:04 am

Sigh....I am paying for a wedding. I never knew it was this crazy expensive. I am now definitely a huge proponent of eloping or small weddings. It seems to me that money would be better spent for the down payment on a house or a new car.
All in all I am doing okay. Still frugal and I still make a game of “no spend” days.
The funny part is that you get so conditioned to saving and being frugal that the thought of spending makes you uncomfortable. I guess I’ll have to earn how to do that.

8 Responses to “The Wedding”

  1. mumof2 Says:

    why pay for a wedding if you don't want to...set a limit and only spend that much it is only for one day seems like a waste to me as well I have always said it is better to put money towards a house then a big wedding

  2. Creditcardfree Says:

    Nice to hear from you! My in-laws helped with our wedding. I also kept invite to under 150 people. I would guess 100 came. My memory is that costs were $3000-$4500. But hey that was 24 years ago. I have zero plans for paying for weddings, but yet girls don't have anyone in their sights yet. Good luck finding the boundary you can live with!

  3. CB in the City Says:

    If it's not too late, set a boundary that feels comfortable and generous to you. If wedding costs rise above that, the kids come up with it themselves. (If you are paying for a child's wedding -- not sure from your wording!) So many marriages end up in failure, it seems ridiculous to devote so much money to the first day of it.

  4. PRICEPLUS Says:

    Well, I am paying for the wedding. I used to tell my DD that she could take an education or a wedding but not both. I said it mostly in jest. I just have the one and she is a great kid. Geez, she is a grown woman doing her residency. Where did the time go? I saved for this occasion but it still gives you sticker shock.

    Hey Creditcardfree! It is nice to stop by every so often to the site that helped me out of debt and restored fiscal sanity in my life!

  5. rob62521 Says:

    Ouch. It is difficult to spend big bucks, especially when one realizes that the wedding industry loves socking it to the customers. Hope you find a happy medium.

  6. LifeBalance Says:

    I'm glad you saved for it. If I had a girl, I would probably do that too. Since I have all boys, I will not be paying for weddings and I have told them that so we don't have misaligned expectations. We're paying for college, but not weddings, house down payments, or cars. They know that they should choose a girl whose parents can afford the wedding and/or one that has simple tastes or one that they love so much that they themselves are willing to foot the bill. I think the groom's family is responsible for the rehearsal dinner so I'll be ready for that.

    Really the wedding is the ceremony and that's not expensive. It's the reception that costs big bucks and it's just a fancy party after all.

  7. creditcardfree Says:

    That fantastic that you saved for it!

  8. livingalmostlarge Says:

    Now i read this i'm curious what did the wedding cost?

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